Spectrum of Possibility
Cory Irwin calls himself an informal humorist.
He loves to make people laugh. He enjoys being an attentive friend. Take the time one of his friends was in the hospital. Knowing she loved awards shows, Cory live texted the entire Oscars ceremony for her.
“I do not tolerate when people are sad,” says the 24-year-old Ohio native and recent Walsh University graduate. “You will not be unhappy around me.”
Thanks to an amazing support system and loving family, Cory is applying what he has learned with Milestones (social development, work skills, job hunting) to school, during his internship at The Jewish Federation of Cleveland and in his relationships with friends and co-workers.
“This whole interchanging web of support has helped me through the years,” he says. “I had a lot of intervention in public school as well as coaching from Milestones. And of course, my support from family.”
Tell us about yourself. How would you describe your personality?
I try to show empathy and sympathy for others. In the context of who I am, an autistic individual, some people think I’m devoid of emotion. My defense is I put that shell on because I feel everything. People ask, “Why do you make light of situations?” I laugh and am mirthful. Otherwise I would be melting down because of how difficult things are.
What are you passionate about?
I am a reader first and foremost. I went through many of the numerous phases a young boy goes through – stuffed toys, dinosaurs, little figures. I wouldn’t really play, I would just line them up and look. I would get hopping mad if my sisters moved things. But then came the books and out came everything else. When your mother is an English teacher with 27 years in the public education trenches and your father is an amateur civil war enthusiast with books all around the house, you become a reader. The consequence of being a reader is having an extensive vocabulary.
What do you enjoy when you’re not at work?
I like going to the museums around here. I look at the museums differently because I went to a four-year university program to learn to work in museums. When I am at a museum, I see how things are laid out; I notice all the extra things that go into keeping a museum running.
What’s something you have done that you’re proud of?
I was in the Boy Scouts of America. I got the Eagle Rank. That’s the highest rank you can get in the Boy Scouts. Very few people get it.
What are some everyday challenges you face?
Waiting my turn. Raising my hand too much in class. Teachers have to see how other students are doing. I do this today in classes, I have had to watch it again. “You don’t have to raise your hand,” but no, I have to raise my hand or I will shout people down. I do not whisper.
Simple conversation cues are difficult. I have to be retaught, review, re-clarify. I have to keep those muscles exercised.
How did you get to Milestones?
By chance, my family and I were in Cleveland and learned about Milestones. My dad called their free helpdesk and spoke to Miss Haley.
My mom will say the only person who understands me more than she or my father does is probably Miss Haley at Milestones. She has been working with me so I can learn how to talk to my co-workers, advocate for myself and build a career in the field I love. I am learning to trust in my own abilities, my own assertiveness, and not always be second-guessing myself. Haley helped me achieve this.
I am currently working as the Cleveland Israel Arts Connection Intern at the Jewish Federation of Cleveland. Milestones forged this new partnership with the Federation which has provided me with the opportunity to contribute my knowledge and skills on a great team.
This is the first experience I found that aligns with my passion within museum studies. This internship is a stepping stone for me to a career in museum education. I am learning so much.
How has Milestones helped you?
Miss Haley also connected me to an Autism Personal Coach, MiKayla. I meet with MiKayla every Friday. She expects me to be looking at things to do such as using my budget and being comfortable doing things by myself, even if a friend can’t join me. I am now getting to the point of doing things on my own. I don’t give myself enough trust and confidence that I can be assertive. But MiKayla and Milestones helped me to develop this.
What do you foresee for the future? What would be your dream job?
Working in museum education. If I’m destined to be a Clevelander for the long term, I would love to work at the Rock Hall, the Cleveland Metro Parks Zoo, the Museum of Natural History or the Museum of Art.
What advice do you have for individuals on the spectrum?
I always have to remind myself daily, “You will get your happily ever after.” But you have to have the patience, trust, strength of will to play the long game to get what you want.
Some people call me a spectrum ambassador. Sometimes I don’t want to be the ambassador. I want a pill available so I can do math, so I can be more social. But I am, for the rest of my life, an autistic individual and I will always need help in certain categories.
My advice: Don’t drown yourself in despair. The label doesn’t define you. You make the label work for you.
Will Sukenik, Cleveland native and community leader, has been actively involved in various causes throughout Northeast Ohio for more than 50 years.
When Milestones co-founder Ilana Hoffer Skoff first reached out to Sukenik, nearly 15 years ago, he was immediately drawn to the organization’s mission. Though he doesn’t have a personal connection to autism, he was familiar with the challenges it presented to families.
“The work that Milestones does in the community is very important,” he says. “There are a lot of families who are struggling and the organization has helped in so many ways. I have a tremendous amount of respect for Ilana. I think she and her staff are doing an absolutely fantastic job.”
Sukenik recognizes the importance of campaigns like Milestones’ Annual Fund and encourages individuals to get involved and give back. Serving as co-chair of the Milestones planned giving committee alongside Steve Rudolph, he is consistently considering the future and an organization’s support in perpetuity.
“Without the support of the Annual Fund, Milestones would not be able to do what they are doing,” he says. “I’m also trying to encourage others to leave a legacy so an organization can be continually supported even after they are no longer around.”
In addition to his involvement with Milestones, Sukenik serves as President of Beachwood-based Properties Management Co. and has held multiple leadership positions in the community including serving as a past board member of the Jewish Federation of Cleveland, honorary and life trustee of Anshe Chesed Fairmount Temple, and life trustee of the Jewish Family Service Association of Cleveland.
When Sukenik reflects on all that Milestones has achieved over the years – how the organization serves more than 2,400 parents and professionals each year, the thousands of online resources, the free Helpdesk and an annual autism conference – he sees the difference it is making in the region and beyond.
“The successes have been amazing,” he says. “I would hope that people would consider becoming involved and continue to be involved.”
The Will & Jan Sukenik Foundation will continue to support and fund Milestones and many other worthy organizations for many years to come. Will is co-chair of the Milestones Planned Giving Committee along with Stephen Rudolph.
Molly Mack was at a crossroads.
As a parent of a child on the spectrum, she felt like her family had successfully navigated Daniel’s early childhood years thanks to support and local resources. But Daniel’s teenage years and his looming transition to adulthood presented a whole other set of challenges.
“With this new season of life, I felt like didn’t have someone to turn to,” Molly remembers of that desperate time two years ago. “It was the first time I truly felt alone.”
Had a friend not told her about Milestones, Molly says she would not have found such life-changing resources for her son – and empowerment as a parent. “They have helped me be a better mom to Daniel,” she says. “They are right there, helping me every step of the way.”
How did you first get connected to Milestones?
My husband Tom and I moved our family from a smaller town in Ohio to a western suburb of Cleveland when our son, Daniel, was three. We believed there would be more resources and a greater level of services for him in a bigger city. This was back in 2005. But more recently, with this transition piece to adulthood, I felt at a loss.
I shared how I was feeling with a friend of mine, Sarah, who founded Connecting for Kids. I asked her, “What am I supposed to be doing? I have no clue where to turn.” And that’s when Sarah told me, “You have to call Beth at Milestones.”
How has the Milestones staff helped you?
I called Beth (Thompson) that very day! Beth has been my lifeline. Ever since that first phone call, she has been my coach, navigator and sounding board. This was two years ago, when Daniel was 14.
What kinds of resources and services has your family benefited from because of your affiliation with Milestones?
Beth asked me all about Daniel and our journey. She then made a game plan for steps I needed to take to get Daniel connected with agencies and programs that would likely be part of his future. Milestones had step-by-step checklists and timelines for what we should be doing for Daniel as he progresses through high school and into adulthood. I felt an immediate sense of relief at that very first meeting with her.
Tell us about your son, Daniel.
When diagnosed with ASD as a preschooler, our Daniel lagged behind his peers verbally and socially. He was easily overwhelmed with the world around him – it was exhausting to stay two steps ahead of his sensory sensitivities. Then, he literally stopped napping at age two the very week his first baby brother came home. Those were very long days!
As someone once explained to us, autism is like Swiss cheese: a child can have so many strengths yet there are pockets of weaknesses in random areas. Daniel’s strengths have always amazed us. He taught himself to read and can spell like a spelling bee champ. He has always loved math, historical facts and music. Yet, learning can be difficult for him due to reading comprehension and problem solving weaknesses.
Thanks to the positive approach of our school teams over the years, Daniel enjoys attending school despite these challenges. He is motivated to head off to school every day. That is huge! His teachers consistently report that Daniel wants to learn, rarely complains, works hard and is seen as a positive, can-do guy.
The biggest thing you need to know about our Daniel is his one, overarching, glowing strength: he is an extremely social guy who leaves a positive impression most everywhere he goes. He knows nearly everyone, never forgets a name or face and is genuinely interested in the details of their lives. He has been called The Ambassador of his school and The Mayor of our town. He also has a fun sense of humor. Despite having a social/communication disability, Daniel thrives from his connections with others. We are excited to see where this social gift will take him career wise.
How was Daniel’s transition to high school?
Daniel goes to the mainstream high school in our town. We were intentional about wanting him to be a student at Bay Village City Schools to be integrated with neuro-typical kids. We chose Bay Village because it is an older, more established suburb that is not sprawling and constantly changing. He is a sophomore now at Bay High School and he has absolutely benefitted from the stability and continuity of our school system and town. Some of his most special friends today were neuro-typical peers way back in his mainstream elementary classes. We are grateful for the strong sense of community and inclusion within Bay Village as a whole. Daniel is loved and accepted for who he is by his classmates, parents, teachers and neighbors. We really could not ask for more than that!
Tell us about your hopes for Daniel’s future.
The biggest thing for us is making sure that we help Daniel find a future path – whether school or career — that really capitalizes on his strengths. He’s extremely social and motivated by his connection with people. Ultimately we want Daniel to be safe, happy and self-supporting. We believe strongly that happiness, for everyone, is found when you are able to use the gifts you’ve been given.
Milestones strives to help every individual with ASD reach his/her potential. How do you feel the organization has helped Daniel reach his potential?
This past summer, Daniel got his first real job. He was a busboy at a restaurant. He absolutely loved it. And he’s still working there. The restaurant staff is so supportive – the staff and managers love him and embrace him. It’s so wonderful to see that he can be successful in a competitive work environment. And that is the goal, for him to be successful in a real world environment.
Why is the Annual Fund important?
I will never forget feeling totally lost as I entered this current phase of parenting. Milestones was there for me, and continues to be there for me today. I do not take that support for granted — help is literally a phone call away. The annual fund supports all the amazing work Milestones is doing in the community. It is also nice to know that parents, who may not be able to afford their services, still have an opportunity to access resources thanks to the annual fund.
Why would you encourage someone to give to the Annual Fund?
I support Milestones because the personal coaching I have received from Beth Thompson has truly been priceless! Cleveland is so lucky to have this resource within our community. It is vital that we all help support its efforts at assisting families on this “special journey.”
“It is often said that if you have met one person with autism you have met one person with autism,” says Tim Mikes, Canfield, Ohio resident and recent Kent State University graduate. “But it’s imperative to appreciate the unique experiences that individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder have.”
As an individual on the spectrum, Tim understands the importance of knowing and meeting other people with ASD. “It’s empowering because it reminds me that I am not alone in my struggles and success,” he says. “This humbling experience also allows me to share my insights that could possibly be of help to others.”
He is passionate about helping young adults, like himself, transition into adulthood and engage with the “real world.” Whether it is through his work with the Kent State Autism Taskforce or as a presenter at Milestones Annual Autism Conference, Tim says helping others through awareness, education and empathy is key to building bridges in the autism community and beyond.
How has Milestones helped you?
Milestones has helped me by teaching me the importance of knowing how to advocate for oneself, specifically being able to understand the Americans with Disabilities Act and how it relates to higher education. Milestones conferences held in June have been extremely helpful for myself and my family because it is one of the few times where medical and educational professionals, individuals with ASD, and family members of those with ASD are able to collaboratively discuss effective approaches to addressing areas of concern and display the success of individuals with ASD. The synergistic environment that Milestones produces at its conferences allows productive learning for all parties involved.
Tell us about yourself – where you work, where you live, where you attended college, places you volunteer, etc.
I currently live in Canfield, Ohio with my parents. I attended three different colleges: Ohio Northern University, Ohio University and Kent State University. While I learned a great deal at Ohio Northern University I transferred to Ohio University because of loneliness. Unfortunately, I had to take a medical leave from Ohio University after a year and was diagnosed with ASD. After several adverse medication reactions, I met medical professionals in Cleveland who expertly assisted me and I returned to my pursuit of a college degree.
I graduated this past May with a degree in Public Health with Cum Laude status from Kent State University. While at Kent State, I helped educate staff about ASD and gave a presentation to the University Police about how to approach students who may be experiencing a sensory integration issue. I helped create a student organization and I remain a member of the Kent State Autism Taskforce which is made up of students, staff and faculty who would like to improve the retention of students with ASD and improve their college experience.
How do you think Milestones impacts the young adult community?
I can, without a shadow of a doubt, say that Milestones positively affects the young adult community. Milestones connects these individuals with resources and others who can help guide them through their journey in life. They also are respectful and understanding of all different types of people who are on the autism spectrum. They teach a valuable lesson on “owning” your disability. This can be thought of as not using it as an excuse but rather taking responsibility in being assertive about getting help when you need it, and also to not become discouraged with yourself when you face difficulties.
How have you personally been affected by your affiliation with Milestones?
I was a presenter for the 2015, 2016 and 2017 conferences. The most recent presentation I gave in 2017 was about writing, which is a common area of difficulty for many with ASD for various reasons (for example, continuity of ideas and maintaining chronological order of events, succinctness or need for giving more detail). I have also been able to volunteer at one of the autism walks which was held in Cleveland. The most recent event that I was able to assist with was a presentation to first-year medical students and explaining what they needed to know about patients with ASD.
What is the most important thing you’d like a friend, relative, or neighbor to know about Milestones?
I would implore friends, relatives and neighbors to go to Milestones if they have a family member with ASD and are not sure how to best assist them. While autism is sadly often shown as a terrible debilitating condition, when one starts to realize that people with ASD are still people, that they request the same things as anyone else – which is respect and understanding – one will start to see that this condition is not as debilitating as initially thought.
I would leave with this thought – Diagnosis: Autism Spectrum Disorder; Treatment: Respect and understanding with necessary assistive supports in place. Prognosis: Dependent on continuity of treatment plan. In essence it is the willingness of the individuals with ASD and their families’ support and commitment to helping address difficulties, along with being able to connect with resources such as Milestones, that makes all the difference.
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Adam Berebitsky, Milestones 2017 Benefit Honoree, is not a sidelines kind of person. Especially when it comes to causes he believes in. The Solon resident and father of two has been an active participant of Milestones board since 2011, serving in various roles ranging from Board Member to Vice Chair and currently as Chairman.
During his tenure, Berebitsky has seen the organization grow and increase awareness within the community, and beyond. “Looking back, we’ve come a long way and it’s very exciting where we are going,” he says.
Adam wants the community to know that Milestones provides a family atmosphere, one that is knowledgeable about the challenges families are going through. “You are not alone,” he says. “We have a small staff but a staff that really cares about you and your family member.”
Tell us about your involvement with Milestones.
I’ve known co-founder Ilana (Hoffer Skoff) for many years and was aware of the organization and what she and (co-founder) Mia were doing.
I’ve served as board president at Milestones for the past three years and was asked to continue on for a fourth year. Well, my main job is getting the awareness of what our organization provides to the community. First and foremost, this is very important. We have grown over my tenure and created diversity in the board. We have great people on the development committee and the finance committee who help the organization achieve its goals. We continue to improve on our digital platforms – driving people to our services via the website and social media outlets. This has increased the awareness of Milestones over the last few years.
Tell us about yourself. Are you from Northeast Ohio?
I’m originally from South Bend, Indiana. I moved to Cleveland in 1988 with my wife, Stacey, whom I met at Indiana University (she is originally from Beachwood). We have two children. Our daughter, Lindsey, is 24 and lives in Chicago and works as a guidance counselor. Our son, Corey, is 21 and is a senior at Indiana University, studying management information systems. I am currently National Restaurant Lead and Tax Partner at BDO Cleveland.
How have you personally been affected by your affiliation with Milestones? Do you have a personal connection to autism?
Though I don’t have a personal connection to autism, I do have co-workers, friends and acquaintances with children on the spectrum. I have seen the importance of them being connected to a resource like Milestones just when they feel they are not sure what to do next to help their child. What I love about Milestones and why I got involved is because it’s more of a grassroots organization. It’s still a small organization compared to many others out there. There’s that personal touch.
How do you think Milestones has impacted the community over the years?
We have improved awareness immensely. Many parents, especially those who are looking for resources for children on the spectrum have been able to find resources through our organization. Plus, we have an amazing staff. Our program director, Beth Thompson, is top notch for example. The leaders of the organization have personal experiences with their own children on the spectrum, they understand what parents are looking for.
Recently, our focus has been that bridge for children to teens to adulthood; we have a done a good job in helping these young adults get the resources and support they need. We are helping them to take that next step, to help them achieve and reach their potential through education and job skills training. That is where I don’t think any other organization in Northeast Ohio, and maybe even in the country, provides such service to the autism community. We are lucky to have that.
What is the most important thing you’d like a friend, relative or neighbor to know about Milestones?
Our staff has been working with people in the community who are facing situations similar to those you are dealing with. It is important that you share those issues and questions with others who have gone before you. We offer this sort of family atmosphere; we’re here for you. We’ll be responsive to your needs, and we will go to the Nth degree to find solutions to any questions, problems and needs that you have.